With Wimbledon in full swing I thought that it might be helpful to consider the lessons that we might be able to consider using some themes from tennis. It would be helpful if you are feeling overwhelmed and feeling like you are starting to not be so on top of things.
Don’t run around after the ball !
Are you feeling you are running around after everyone else, leaving little time and energy for yourself ?
If we keep trying to chase the balls it is likely that we will start dropping them.
Then these 3 tips might help you:-
1) What can you drop ?
Review what you are doing, do you need to be doing it all, who can help, can someone else do it.
2) Take time for you
Making sure time is made to do something for you, prioritising you too is important.
3) Re-energising
Running around can be exhausting so it is important to take regular breaks, create good eating and sleeping routines.
Who serves you ?
This was a question that came up quite often during my training and seems to have some how stuck as a helpful question for to ask.
I think if you tend to be a people pleaser it can be helpful to think about your relationships and friendships.
How much effort are you putting in Vs. how much you get back ?
Do you walk away feeling drained, put upon or bad about yourself ?
Do you find you go along with what others want to keep them happy ?
It does not mean you have to give up on any friendships or relationships, but it might be useful to think about how you respond within them.
Getting it over the net !
It be easy to fall into only seeing what is still to be done, this can feel overwhelming when it feels like there is not much progress.
To help balance this out it is important to see what we have achieved as well, it can help with motivation and also gives us positive feelings.
Sometimes it can be helpful to list down everything you have done to help reflect on things. It can be the little things as well as the big things.
Getting support
Counselling can be valuable in applying the lessons; help to improve things, to help manage feelings and get support with changes and making choices. Counselling can help by talking through your experiences which can make things clearer. Sitting along with thoughts and feelings can be hard, but it can often not be easy or feel ok to share with those who are close to you. Having someone who you trust but is detached from situation is helpful to be able to speak freely about things. I am here to support you, counsellingwithsarah0@gmail.com or via my website contact form.