You may be clear in what you are hoping to get from counselling, or it may be that something does not feel right, you feel anxious, low or stuck. There may be something changing in your life which may mean that you are looking to make a choice and you would like to consider and reflect on the options in a confidential and non-judgmental way. You may have experienced a loss and would find it helpful to find some meaning from it.
Below are some things I can help with: anxiety, bereavement, choice, guilt, loneliness, meaning, overwhelm, relationships, responsibility self-care, and stress.
It is natural to feel worried, tense or afraid at times. These feelings can become bigger when dealing with a stressful situation. If you are finding that your worries are impacting on your everyday life and the things you enjoy, it can help to have a chance to talk things through in counselling. This can give a chance to address the source of the anxiety. By reflecting, anxiety can be understood and healthier ways to cope can be developed.
Has something happened in your life that has been taken away from you. Bereavement is a term often used when someone has died but it is not limited to it. Bereavement can describe many losses in life of a change in circumstances, such as a relationship break up, a job loss, a diagnosis. Working together we can consider the stages of grief and understand how it is for you.
I can understand that there are times where there feels like there is no choice. I believe that there is always a choice, but it may not seem to be clear. Events and life can feel overwhelming. Counselling can be helpful to talk through things, hopefully resulting in a lightening of the load and giving some clarity to what is possible.
You may be feeling guilty over something that you feel you did wrong. This maybe stopping you from moving forward in life. Guilt can cause distress, if this is something you are noticing then counselling can help to address emotions and reframe feelings.
Feeling lonely can impact on your mental health, loneliness is not the same as being alone. You can feel lonely around people for many different reasons, this could be that you don’t feel heard, understood, you don’t believe you can be your true self. Feelings of loneliness may mean that you have lowered self-esteem. Through counselling you have a chance to consider your thoughts and feelings and look to what might help support you to feel less lonely.
There maybe times when you struggle to understand why something has happened. There are a number of losses that occur throughout our lives. A loss is where something we value we are no longer able to have. Examples, bereavement, redundancy, divorce. Counselling may help to try to understand what happened and why, helping to grieve.
If you are feeling overwhelmed it could be that your emotions are becoming difficult to manage. It may mean that your coping mechanisms and mood are affected. It may mean you are left tired, lonely, stressed, forgetful, suffer from pain such as headaches, have trouble sleeping, feeling anxious or low. Counselling can help ‘lighten the load’ by expressing and releasing your feelings. By not using energy to suppress or juggle those feelings then it can allow for clearer thinking.
Events in life can alter our relationships with people. This can be difficult as it may be confusing, leave us in a low mood, cause stress, resentment or frustration. It could be that it leaves you feeling anxious or worried about the future of the relationship. You may feel that you want something to change but not sure what it is. I offer a non-judgmental confidential space to talk through your feelings about the relationship. It may be helpful to consider what it means to you now and where you feel you would like to go.
There maybe times where responsibility feels too much or maybe it is hard to accept. Counselling maybe able to provide an opportunity to talk through these feelings; it may free up some feeling of responsibility or to help to remove any barriers that could prevent acceptance. It could be that you are a new parent or you have found yourself in a position of caring for someone who is in ill health.
Self care is so important but can be often the thing that is put to one side. This is normally due to messages we tell ourselves about self care, such as being self indulgent, guilty, or not as important as others. Counselling can give you an opportunity to explore what might be getting in the way for you and look to increase your self care practice.
Stress is small amounts can help us keep motivated and complete tasks. If stress stays with us for a long time or feels very intense it may start to impact your physical and mental health. We can work together to consider thoughts and a chance to express feelings.